More To Life Than Love

Something that I’ve recently realized is that there is more to life than love. When I say this, I am talking about having a significant other or being in a relationship. At this point in my life, I should not spend so much time figuring out where a man could fit in my life. I’m sure that some ladies that are reading can relate to wanting someone to confide in or to talk to about your day. Even though that may sound good ladies, trust me, there are more important things about yourself that you should prioritize. We can get too caught up in the attention of another man to where we neglect the things about ourselves that needs to be heavily focused on. I have never been in a committed relationship but I always found myself in the company of guys that didn’t mean well for me. I then had to take a step back and realize my worth. I was putting my all into situations that didn’t even deserve half of my time. When I took that step back, I then started to focus on how to better myself for my future. Some questions to ask yourself: Am I being productive in my everyday life? How can I work on myself today to be a better me for tomorrow? I had a friend to tell me that it is important to work on yourself before trying to be with someone else and I couldn’t agree more. From a guy’s perspective, he said that the most attractive thing is when a woman has a strong mentality before she even thinks about being with someone. However, ladies, it is important to not only work on yourself for someone else but for yourself also. You are the prize and there’s more to your life. Work on things that will make you a better person. Work on your goals in life, whether it be educational or professional. Build your relationship with God. Fill those voided relationships in your family. Figure out what it is you want to do in life and set goals to reach those dreams. These are all things I had to sit down and think about rather than worrying about someone who’s not even on the same page as I am. That’s growth! I see and hear about a lot of women that are in unhealthy situations that are not good for them in many aspects. I’ve been that woman but I had to realize. Realizing that at my age “finding love” is not the main priority. If you really want to be honest, most men my age are not even mentally ready for anything so why should I spent days of my life worrying about them. Remember, don’t rush love because it will come, but in the meantime work on yourself. I can say that I am in a better place now that I am working on my career choices, my next moves, my self worth, and more. I challenge you to do the same.